Madame Scarlette has answered some questions that never get old. “Oldies but Goodies” are questions that have come in over the years, that Madame has decided to share. Below you will find two that she has answered previously on social media. If you would like to send Madame Scarlette a question, fill out our form here.

Looking for Perspective

When seeing a Pro-Domme. When seeing her on a regular basis, and she takes you to new levels. There seems to be a bond between the 2 of you. Or is that just the emotions kicking in, which I’m guessing isn’t advisable. From a subbies perspective.

Dear Looking for Perspective,
A bond does develop. Think of it this way, you are trusting that person with your life and privacy. You are giving your being into their hands and allowing them to take control and you are gifting them with your submission. You can’t help but develop a connection with an individual that you are placing that much trust in. There is definitely a sub and even a Dom/me high that occurs as your chemicals, and hormones kick in. If they are good at what they do they will push you further and expand your boundaries as well as your fetishes in some cases. I would say enjoy the euphoria, enjoy the freedom from constraint but if you are concerned with self-preservation don’t deepen the tie, just live in that moment.

Need Clarification

I would love to be someone’s sub, but they always want money in advance! Is that customary?

Dear Need Clarification,
There are various types of situations. Pro, Lifestyle, and a hybrid between Pro and Lifestyle. I am the latter. Is this person you are submitting to online or in person? I can think of a few reasons for this request, if they are legit they may have been burned in the past, they may be securing a spot if they are busy, or they may just be a findomme just asking for money with no return. I’d be cautious and see if they are legit before handing money over. Also, for anyone who thinks that shouldn’t happen, it does take a lot to be a capable Dom such as equipment, years of training (yes we do training in various things), clothing, maintenance, and if we invite you to a location the cost of upkeep etc. The number one thing I always say is VET your Dominant as we vet you, the next is respect and both parties should have that and yes, a Dominant should have respect for subs as humans as they are looking to learn, and to experience with someone who is competent and compassionate to guide them. I hope this helps you out.

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